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[TW: rape]

This is the rape joke:
My best friend was four years old the first time his father came into his room at midnight and tore out his throat. He still has days when I cannot hold him because the memory of a bleeding trachea haunts his doorway. He has not been home for the holidays in many years, but – even now – hands are seen as weapons.

This is the rape joke:
I have been told by more than twenty people that they have been raped. To all of them, I asked where the rapist was. From none of them, I heard ‘jail.’

This is the rape joke:
Once my brother told me that I was so ugly, I would be a virgin forever. Unless someone raped me. But even they wouldn’t come back for seconds.

This is the rape joke:
I believed him.

This is the rape joke:
I now look at every woman on the street and wonder if the space between her legs is a crime scene, surrounded by ripped caution tape. The statistics tell me that this is so common that I will never be in a room that does not contain a survivor. Not even if I am in that room alone.

This is the rape joke:
I was thirteen years old, and he was supposed to be just a friend.

This is the rape joke:
When his older brother came home, the boy pulled away. He wiped the tears from my face and said ‘we should do this again some time.’

This is the rape joke:
When I finally told my parents, they asked what I had been wearing.

This is the rape joke:
I had been wearing my innocence. My trust. I had worn the love I held for humanity and expected to be treated well. I had never been taught that I would be that girl, the one who keeps a mine of secrets between her legs – that girl was the slut. I wasn’t supposed to be breakable.
What had I been wearing? I wore the rape joke, then I became it.

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This is the Rape Joke | d.a.s

After Lora Mathis’s poem “the Rape Joke

(via sulkiness)

gwendabond:

adriofthedead:

theonion:

Increasing Number Of Men Pressured To Accept Realistic Standards Of Female Beauty

“It’s not fair to me, and it’s not fair to other men like me,” he continued. “Having to live with society’s expectations that I accept women just the way they are takes an enormous toll.”
this whole article is gold

The Onion kills it yet again.
"There’s a paradox in thinking that you’re better than other girls, when your whole reason for feeling that way is because you think your gender is so inherently inferior that you want to dis-identify with being a girl altogether."
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More Than Words: Tomboys R Us

THIS whenever some girl brags about being “one of the boys” or says something like “I’m not like other girls, I LOVE [stereotypically masculine thing].”

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"In social justice, there’s this absurd meme (that I’ve been guilty of myself) is that we are the “voice for the voiceless,” but that’s not right. The oppressed are not voiceless – they’re just not being listened to."
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Dianna Anderson, of Be the Change, at Rachel Held Evans’ “Ask a Feminist” (via emm-in-sem)

Wooo, I like this. 

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Perfect quote is perfect.

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Gonna print this out and stick it on my mirror. Keep that shit in check.

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Or that one is “GIVING” a voice to a marginalized person. Which is very problematic as well. Having a voice is different to not being heard.

(via newwavefeminism)

And always remember that our ‘voices’ are not always spoken word, there are many ways to communicate and they should all be respected

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seekingwillow:

fryadvocate:

seekingwillow:

contentkiller:

lightspeedsound:

jesuotaku:

rivirambles:

amischiefofmice:

PRAISE BE

Wendy’s is doing the same thing.
Will wonders never cease.

Reblogging this because it keeps showing up on my dash and I keep not-quite raining on the parade, but it seems like everyone thinks this means something different than it does, so I guess I’ll rain on it a little bit.I’m afraid this motion has nothing to do with conquering the gender binary or whatever Tumblr is really happy about to be reblogging it so heavily. It’s not about making little children feel like they can get whichever toy they prefer. It’d be nice if it was, but I’d be shocked if that was the case.No, the girl toy here is a My Little Pony. Which means that the *real* reason for this notice is that a bunch of bronies, as there are bajillions of photos and videos of them doing, are coming into fast food restaurants and buying several happy meals. They threw pissy fits when asked if they wanted the “boy or girl” toy, insisting that My Little Pony isn’t for girls or whatever, again, only saying this because of overwhelming evidence that bronies do this shit. Management eventually has enough of it, asks employees to just ask if people want Skylanders or My Little Pony so they won’t have any more disgusted bronies getting mad that their precious fandom is targeted at crappy dumb little girls.
So the short version is: this little paper unfortunately means the exact opposite of what you think it means, socially speaking. It was put up because grown-ass men get all pissy when it’s suggested that they like a thing for girls.
Proof: http://www.equestriadaily.com/2014/04/editorial-how-to-buy-mcdonalds-ponies.html <— this was posted on the net’s biggest brony hive on April 10, 2014. So yeah, this is sadly not about anything else but how awful bronies are, sorry.

siiiiiiigh

Bronies ruin everything.

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So the outcome SEEMS like it’s gender neutral, while the ACTION is actually male (Brony) as the default (customer). I just… I will never get this Broni thing? Ok? Never. I wasn’t a MLP girl as a child, but this thing makes it hard to even get INTO it now.
And just brings up a thing I saw the other day - where someone was wishing AppleJack and Rainbowdash could be made to act and appear ”more feminine’.
… Yeah. Not even my fandom and I’M all WTF?!
I can’t even.
A few months ago, I’d have tried to ‘feel’ it by imagining if Fedoras took over She-Ra or JEM. But then, Fedoras actually took over JEM so - yeah.

I am never going to be ok with Bronies and here’s why. The first time I met my boyfriend’s nieces, I was chatting with their mom and I noticed that they are all in love with MLP.  And I mentioned the movie and she said they went once, but she decided not to take them again because the first time there had been too many adult men without children in the audience.
So, the reason I’m not ok with it is that adult men have taken over a space intended for young girls.  And they’ve done so in a way that makes that space no longer safe for young girls. 

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Well fuck. When you say that?
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At first part of me felt and generally does feel someway, about assumptions on non-child accompanied men in certain places.  Bear with me. My mind goes to widowers/grieving parents, male queer couples contemplating parenthood and people who only physically seem adult but mentally are not. Then my mind goes to what I know some women have gotten away with re: societal attitudes about women without children in child oriented spaces.
Then my mind flicked to being in a theater, with a bunch of adults reacting in adult ways and those adult ways being full of misogyny and rape culture and the hard sexual element that seems to be part of ‘Broni-hood’ - and two little kids sitting in the middle of all that. [emphasis mine]
And now I realize, that’s not the only part. The chance to bond with peers via an expedition to the movie of a beloved franchise? You’d now have to group together and buy out a show and thus it all be people you kind of know already. No chance of your kids, your girls, giggling and making eye-contact with someone else their age wearing a certain t-shirt, etc…
It’s an invasion of a woman only space, or at least a majority woman only space - that these assholes think and unfortunately ARE getting away with - because it’s a ‘junior woman only space’. And their attitude is not just that women don’t count, it’s that young women - young girls don’t count. Young girls don’t get to have ANYTHING. Not even the things propped up in pink - not if it’s deemed ‘good enough that it SHOULD be for ‘BOYS/MEN’.
I guess I should rephrase my ‘don’t get’ with ‘won’t accept the bullshit of’ - cause I DO get the message; “Girls don’t get ANYTHING.” And it’s fucked up.
On the surface; MLP or Skylanders should be gender neutral. But it isn’t. It CAN’T be when what precipitated the change was ‘the social stigma of girlhood’.

unirony:

lebanesegirlswag:

unirony:

croptops r for anyone 2 wear n everyone 2 celebrate

Unless you have a muffin top.

here’s a to-do list for u

  • fix yr garbage ass blog
  • fix yr garbage ass attitude
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less pure after you’ve touched her
maybe you should take a look at your hands"
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